Joanna Gaines has Never Been to Your House

Today we have another guest post from Tricia Firmaniuk. How lucky I was to find a virtual assistant with the same aesthetic as me! And she’s an artist so she sees undertones from miles away. And in my experience, it is indeed rare for an artist to be able to translate mixing paint colours for canvases to wall colours, to hard finishes, to fabrics, but Tricia is that rare combination!

Tricia and I were talking about a thread on a forum where a designer was very concerned over a paint colour she had just specified for one of her clients when she started searching online and reading what others were saying about the same colour.

Let me be very clear. There is no such thing as the perfect colour. Every colour in the world is ugly in the wrong context. A clean colour will look bad with a more muted or dirty colour, a dirty colour will make a clean colour look bad, if your trim is too dark and your wall colour is too light, your trim will look dirty, but that same trim with a dark colour will be perfect, the list goes on.

So I asked Tricia to put together this post so that we could clear this up perhaps more profoundly than I have in previous posts:


Paint companies are smart. They know that if a celebrity designer comes out with a list of their favourite shades of white or grey or fill-in-the-blank-here-paint-colours, that people will grasp onto those brochures and lists like a life raft, and then bottom line, gallons of paint will be sold, which is the whole point right?

People constantly poll each other online about their thoughts on this colour or that. They look to their favorite designers, bloggers, Pinterest and Houzz for help with finding that elusive perfect paint colour.

And I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that the feature at the beginning of every House Beautiful issue where they list designers favourite paint colours along with the description is their most popular.

We’ve all seen those seductive articles that create mystique around this paint colour or that, like this below:

"These grays are just the calmest thing in the world, and the green in them means they go with everything. I like painting a wall in two shades. The darker color grounds the room, and then the lighter runs right up to the ceiling and makes it feel higher. It creates this serene atmosphere." —Laura Bohn. Paint by Sherwin-Williams.

Sensible Hue SW 6198 and Aloof Gray SW 6197

“These grays are just the calmest thing in the world, and the green in them means they go with everything. I like painting a wall in two shades. The darker colour grounds the room, and then the lighter runs right up to the ceiling and makes it feel higher. It creates this serene atmosphere.” Laura Bohn, paint by Sherwin Williams


Whoa! Doesn’t that just make you nod your head and want to head directly to the paint store like some kind of decorating zombie?

I want some serene atmosphere.

And who doesn’t want high ceilings from a colour that “goes with everything”?

However, Joanna Gaines or Laura Bohn (below) have not been to your house. And the room that you are admiring has a look and a feel. Something you will still need to add to your room once it’s painted.

A lovely room by Laura Bohn

So, eventually, after spending days upon hours online researching paint colours, you take the plunge and paint your room the-colour-somebody-on-the-internet declares absolutely foolproof (and we know there’s no such thing right?).

Now you’re staring at four empty, freshly painted walls, squinting and tilting your head, and turning the lights on and off. You’re trying to discern the relative virtues and flaws of this hue you’ve just committed to.

Do you see a hint of pea soup? A whiff of smog? Weird fleshiness? Is it too dark? Too pasty? Does it fill you with serenity and a sense of well being? Probably not, because how can you be sure it’s right?

What’s missing when you’re looking up paint colours online is the same thing that’s missing when you’re staring at a paint chip or a freshly painted but empty room:


Context is everything. A paint colour will never be magical without relating well to your furniture, finishes, and décor, no matter what people on Houzz have to say about it.

Here is BM Pale Oak, a pale greige with a taupe undertone, which is a very popular neutral right now.

It’s looking a bit pasty and well, pink, with the cherry trim in this empty, freshly painted room (below). There is a significant amount of reflection from the very red wood floor going on here and often wood trim requires a deeper colour depending on what colour it is.


And here is a lovely decorated room painted Pale Oak (below) with the colour repeated in the artwork and decor. (Ok, and pretty painted trim).

However, if you had painted the room above based on this image (below) you would definitely not be happy at this moment.

Which is also the same reason why the paint colour that is simply ethereal in your neighbours home might be just dreadful in yours.

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If you’ve been hanging around Maria’s blog for awhile, you know that it’s a completely random draw if you don’t ground your paint colour choice in what you need it to relate to and what you need it to do for your room.

Even so, it can still be tempting to look online for inspiration and validation, which, most of the time, just confuses the issue. If you’ve wisely narrowed down your options based on what looks good with your furniture and finishes, don’t go online to research the colour that your eyes tell you is right.

You are likely to find someone who’s had a bad experience with the colour (because it doesn’t relate well to their room) to cast doubt on it for you. And you’re also going to get distracted by other colours that someone out there loves. Now what? You go in circles, because the internet is not your room.

BM Nantucket Gray (above) looks drab and dated in this room, but on this  shutter it’s a good example of why you can’t judge a colour based on the chip without context

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Recently, based on some online inspiration, a friend of mine decided he would paint his house a fresh pale gray. His wife called me in a panic, she just knew the colour was wrong, but she didn’t know why. She was sure it should be more “beige”. And she was right. Based on their furniture, carpet and tile, the right colour was BM Manchester Tan, a versatile green beige, and with my large boards, it was immediately clear that it was perfect and a marital crisis was averted.

And if green beige is the colour that works, your room will look much better painted green beige than the Sherwin-Williams-colour-of-the-year, or Joanna Gaines’ current go-to gray.

And about cream and beige, the popular neutrals have been hanging out on the cool end of the spectrum for quite a few years now, from taupe to gray to white, and people have become reactive about anything creamy, warm and especially yellow (most beige has quite a bit of  yellow along with it’s dominant undertone). I’ve defended beige and cream before, and I’ll say it again, if you have earthy finishes, your room will look much fresher if you work with what’s there instead of trying to drag it blindly into the white and gray trend.

So while in a room with cool white finishes a beige or cream might look dingy and dated, in a room with creamy or earthy tile and furniture, the same colour might look absolutely fresh and beautiful which is why if someone online is dissing cream as dirty, don’t be persuaded, they are not standing in your room, the context is completely different.

Look at how pretty and fresh BM Spanish White, a deep yellow cream, looks in this gorgeous kitchen with a beautiful cream La Cornue range (below).



Cream colours that border on beige get a bad rap as “apartment beige” (said with a wrinkled nose) because we tend to imagine something like this below.

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It has some charm, sure, but it feels a bit stodgy. This room below is painted the same colour, BM Navajo White, and it looks completely current.

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It might have been tempting to paint this room a whiter white based on current trend pressure, but I think it’s lovely with the Spanish style of this house. It’s the styling that tells us it’s current with black and white photography and a textured black rug. Styling and context is what makes the colour look right.

Pink beige is too often used in the wrong context as a default “warm neutral”, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be pretty in the right setting.

Here’s BM Natural Linen which does appear to match the pink beige bedding, but both the bedding and the paint look like they were chosen as a “safe” neutral below.

By the way, you may have noticed that the world is now full of gray versions of this bedroom.

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Looking at this room (above), you might file Natural Linen in your “never” pile, even if it does match your fabric perfectly. Which would be a shame because Natural Linen can be a perfectly pretty paint colour in a well decorated room (below).


BM Grant Beige is a shade deeper than any green beige we’ve been specifying for interiors lately, but it’s still a perfectly good colour in the right context.  Here it is looking less than awesome trying to hang out with pink and purple undertones (below). It’s easy to see how based on this room. someone might pronounce Grant Beige to be “dirty” and “way too green”.

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But here it is looking classy and lovely in a pretty foyer (below).

Bright hallway with console table


When Maria and I receive feedback on our eDesign colours, whenever someone has been less than thrilled in the past, we ask for photos and the explanation rarely has anything to do with the wrong paint colour being specified, it’s just that the room isn’t finished yet. And for heaven’s sake, take the green tape off the floor before you start to judge.

Paint cannot do all the heavy lifting, it just can’t. And I think I’ve shown you that in this post. And, we have now added a slide that explains that in our eDesign presentations.

Here’s another perfect example of popular and versatile BM Edgecomb Gray looking a bit drab and uninspired (below). In this case, the chair and ottoman look like they are slipcovered in a natural linen fabric so they are looking slightly pink beige in compairson to the green grey wall colour.

Benjamin Moore edgecomb gray undertone

And you might come to this conclusion, “I’ve just painted my room, but it just feels blah”, and go back online looking for paint colour magic, possibly even putting a negative spin on Edgecomb gray for someone else based on your experience. But we know better right? It needs decorating, not a repaint.

edgecomb gray dining room


Here is Edgecomb Gray looking perfectly lovely in a well decorated room (above).

The right paint colour is only one part of your decorating puzzle. It’s an impactful one for sure, covering lots of square footage, but be careful not to overestimate what paint will do for your room.

The right colour depends on the fixed elements, furnishings and decor in your room, and has nothing at all to do with what’s trending on Pinterest, or top designers’ current favorites.  It will only come alive when it relates well and you decorate and style your room, so don’t panic if it doesn’t sweep you off your feet the minute it goes up.

Always use large samples and trust what your eyes tell you about what looks good in your room over what any trendy article, hot designer or the hive mind recommends. Step away from your computer and design your room.

If you would like help narrowing down your options, diagnosing your undertones and figuring out what colour to test, check out our convenient and effective eDesign consultations here.

If you would like to own the best colour tool for choosing colour, check out Maria’s curated collections of large paint colour samples here.

Thanks Tricia for another thoughtful and well-written post!

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  1. L.O.V.E. this post! I can really relate to the grey/beige debate. We have lived in our home 38 years (we built it) and I have gone through both trends several times. The house started out warm with jewel tones and saturated colors – my personal preference and also what was being promoted at the time After a number of years, I needed to redecorate and the design trend was grey/white/pale colors. I made a huge mistake in trying to go with this trend instead of what I really liked and what coordinated with my permanent fixtures. It took me years to get correct those mistakes and I at times I struggle to even find fabrics, accessories, etc. the past few years which did not include ethereal grey. I did incorporate a deep, warm, charcoal grey on my fireplace and tied it into the attached kitchen design with a range hood and built in seating in the eating nook in the same Ben. Moore Satin Impervo. grey. That way, I am acknowledging the trend with easy-to-change paint….NOT flooring and furniture!

  2. This was a great post, and have bookmarked it ….Both my DH and I don’t like grey, don’t look good in grey, and the color grey depresses me. I avoid grey (and stainless) like it’s radioactive and will until I have no other choice. I’ve stuck to my convictions about the colors in my home and as a result, have a home that is comfy, warm, inviting and “us”. Oh, and pretty up to date, except NO GREY anything.

  3. Great article. What color would you choose as a better alternative to Pale Oak in the second photo? The cherry trim and floor in the photo definitely makes it look pink.

    • Hi Allison, Ideally you would have something more to go on other than just the wood trim. There are lots of options with wood trim, so some furnishings or decor would be where I would start. I think the pink in this image is quite a bit of reflection from the floor.

  4. YES! Context matters! So true. BTW, the first photo for Edgecomb that apparently has a chair and ottoman will not show up for me. I’ve refreshed, I’ve exited and come back in. All the other photos are there..

  5. Alleluia, and Amen! Someone besides me understands that there is only your perfect color, not a perfect color. Very well written… I will just show this to my clients instead of spending half the consultation explaining why the paint color the neighbor has on her wall that is so beautiful won’t be the same in your home.

  6. Thank you for posting these photos and commentary! This post clearly shows that every room and every project is unique. A brilliant post with great visuals and spot on but brief explainations. Will be bookmarking this for sure!

  7. Does this apply to new home builds as well? What if you are starting from scratch and need to make decisions quick?!

  8. I’ve been in an apartment for several years thinking, “When I do get a house, I don’t want to paint it gray!” Now we’re about to get that house (this week!). Edgecomb Gray was on my short list, but I like the look of linen furniture and would like to have more of it. What kind of color would you have suggested in that first Edgecomb Gray photo with the linen chair? Thanks!

    • Hi Charlotte, You can have Edgecomb grey (green grey) paint with pink beige (natural) linen, the example room is simply not finished which is why we notice the undertones and how they don’t match.

      If you did have a room filled with natural linen slipcovers and you wanted to coordinate the wall colour, you could try SW Patience. Hope that helps, Maria

  9. I think most people are intimidated by choosing colors so they just want someone to tell them what will work. But as you say, it all depends on context and you have to work with what you have. The examples you provided really prove this point! Also, I’m a beige girl so thanks for defending it!

    I just attended the course in Vancouver and this post reinforces what I learned especially as it relates to my own color dilemmas. As it turns out my wall color, Natural Linen is not necessarily the problem and I understand now why it looks good in some of my rooms and not so much in others and that my furnishings and styling are part of the reason. I still may change the paint color in some rooms but I might also change my flooring. Anyway, I’m feeling more confident about making those decisions now.

  10. I LOVE this post. I tried dipping my toe in the greige world with a warm greige for my bathroom. It worked. Then I took the color strip (not sure of the precise name) and bought the lighter color for my kitchen. It was wrong, wrong, wrong. I had a sinking feeling as I was painting, but hoped that the cool undertones were merely because of green frog tape. As soon as I removed the tape, I knew for sure it was the wrong choice for my warm-undertoned counters (similar to New Venetian Gold granite) and cabinets (creamy white with Toasted Almond glaze). So, I repainted a couple days later. The lesson for me is that following the color strips can be misleading. I knew Maria recommended a large color sample size, but I thought I could “trust” the color strip. Lesson learned.

  11. Great post. After reading your blog and e-books, when I look for paint suggestions now it’s only where they specify something about it Like for example, whether a certain white reads slightly gray or slightly yellow. That helps me narrow down selections to try.

  12. This wonderfully written post soooo describes my path of growth in my 20’s!
    As my house gets more fixed up, i’m doing more things true to me, no pink, beige & hardly any grey. i fell in love with a dutch boy color called “vanilla sparkle” in 2006 and after years of following design recommendations, i have “vanilla sparkle” all over now. It just works with my decor taste/habits & the name just sounds happy.
    Life is short, i’m sticking to what i like so it feels good coming home & yes, great point that the decor makes the room, not the paint. A poorly chosen or placed item can just up-end the balance.

  13. Brilliant post! I have tried to explain the importance of proper paint color choices for years to people and get a headache every time they ignore my advice and choose something that is the “in color” or a color made popular by an HGTV designer that turns out to look hideous in their home, especially with the decor they own. You are an expert indeed!

  14. Your blog posts have been extremely helpful in choosing paint for our open floor plan home. I was wanting to brighten up the house and bring in a more current color palette. I translated that to using the current gray and greige colors. Everyone including my painter further encouraged me down this path. After sampling a half dozen beautiful colors it became apparent that I wasn’t going to be able to choose one because they were wrong wrong wrong. In desperation I took to the internet and found your blog that explained why I was having trouble. It had everything to do with undertones and wrong colors for my earthy floors and furniture (which I happen to love, btw). I choose a nice beige with the right undertones and it feels so right and comfortable. I feel like doing a happy dance! Thanks for the advice!

  15. I’ve been struggling with paint color in my house. I’ve recently painted my bedroom in SW Natural Linen. I first painted my window sills with the color and it looked great. After my white blinds were installed, I finished painting the entire bedroom. The color looks pink. My bedroom window is facing Northwest. My carpet is beige. Is there anything I can do to neutralize the pink aside from repainting the room?