So wow, I had no idea my post about pulls vs. knobs would generate such reactions. Some of you thought it was condescending, so I freaked out and changed the language immediately (one hour after the post went up) and apologized in the comments.
Some thought I was introducing a new way of specifying hardware (not the case), but again, I wasn’t clear.
Then I wrote, “Hey, if you’ve recently renovated, you might not want to read this post because once you’ve drilled holes in your cabinets there’s nothing you can do to change it,” and again, I offended some of you.
I meant to write in a helpful tone that let you know, “Hey everyone, here’s another, easier option for those of you who are overwhelmed by all the hardware choices in the world,” instead of in the tone in which it landed.
So I thought I would write this post to help clear up the last one.
First, you should know that with every post, I find I’m writing to at least four different audiences.
Sometimes that’s hard to do without slightly annoying one or two or even three groups of readers when all I want to do is help every single one of you.
I think most of you will fall into one of these four groups. If you fall into a different group, I would love for you to post a comment below so I can meet you too!
The novice is someone who knows what they like when they see it (or you at least know for sure what you don’t like!) and knows enough to know they have NO IDEA how to make all the millions of design decisions they need to make.
I have such a soft spot for these readers when they make all the normal easy-to-make mistakes that a novice can make.
I’m writing for you, to save you from expensive mistakes.
There’s nothing to feel bad about if you fall into this group. I’m not an expert in everything (nor should I be), so there is no shame in landing here.
You may be in the middle of renovating your home, or looking to decorate and update your living spaces, or be lucky enough to be building your dream home.
And what you really don’t want is to waste money on your way to getting the home you’ve always wanted.
My focus for you is to help you get it right the first time so you can love your house forever.
When you’re a novice, you find it hard to visualize how your design decisions will look once they’re installed. And it’s not until that point that you can either be doing a happy dance or you can feel disappointment kick in.
Because, if you’re feeling disappointed, you can see where automatically choosing accent tile gets you, or how choosing a 4″ (or even worse, 6″ or 8″ pull) and installing one on every single door and two on each drawer will look. Or how choosing your favourite patterned countertop and pairing it with your favourite patterned tile may leave you feeling unfulfilled.
When you’re a novice, you might also have been bossed around by a hired designer.
Obviously, as a novice, you are not trained in design (and that’s why many of you end up in my workshops) and since you fall into this category you didn’t know how to push back when your designer had a vision and a plan for trendy stuff for your home, maybe leaving you less than happy with the end result.
The non-professional with a great eye
The non-professional with a great eye is someone who is a big design enthusiast and has the knack to take their ideas and bring them to life. Their house is tastefully and beautifully decorated and everyone loves it.
I have such love for these readers, because they are right where I started and I remember how it feels to have a whole new world of colour and design open up.
I’m writing for you, to help you keep up with the trends and learn new tips and tricks to make your home even more beautiful.
Some of you attend my workshop because you might have experienced a colour mistake or three and then obsessively painted your walls a couple of time over to get it right, or called the contractor back to rip something out, and then took to the internet to get some help.
And you landed here.
When you found my blog (and this probably applies to many of you no matter which group you’re in) you finally realized you were not crazy. You knew your floor tile had a purple undertone and no one, not your spouse, your designer or your contractor, NO ONE else saw it but YOU.
There are literally thousands of comments on this blog from this group (well, from every category) who appreciate my no-nonsense, classic and timeless approach to design and choosing colour.
When you’re a non-professional with a great eye, you can easily get flooded with requests from friends and family to help them with their rooms and it may just lead you to becoming part of the next group.
The new designer
The new designer is someone who is in love with design and is filled with enthusiasm and a huge appetite to learn everything they can about the subject. They may have taken courses to increase their knowledge as they start a journey of making their passion their career.
I have such energy for these readers and am cheering them on as they learn to hone and sharpen their skills in the world of colour and design.
I’m writing for you, to give you help when you’re stuck with a colour question, and to save you from some of the earlier mistakes I made. Like thinking it was a good idea to combine five different fabric patterns because I could coordinate all the colours or being convinced that accent tile was an obvious and necessary part of any bathroom or kitchen installation.
When you’re a new designer, you have everything to learn about making the right choices for your clients and also, how to explain the answer to the question “Why?”
I want to give you all the help I can when you’re stressing in the middle of the night over a paint colour you specified and you’re holding your breath hoping you made the right choice.
There’s always lots of you in my workshops and it fills me with joy and delight to hear your questions and to spend solid time with you unwrapping the mysteries of colour and how it works.
The seasoned design professional
The seasoned design professional is someone who’s been in the colour and design business for years. They know what they’re doing as they’ve got experience to back up their natural talent.
I have such respect and admiration for these readers—my peers—and value their comments when they write. I’m flattered they read my posts and return the compliment when and if they write one of their own.
I’m writing for you, to drill down to the minutia of colour in a way that contributes to your business and your clients’ happiness with you. And just for the record, you’re not the type of designer I was talking about in that post.
You may or may not even love my aesthetic but you follow me because you continue to learn about this elusive world of undertones in colour. Because you get on-going free training and no-nonsense articles about this topic that you can’t get anywhere else in the world.
You don’t always agree with me, but for the most part, you do. Which is why you continue to follow me.
There are probably three of you in each of my workshops. Dressed well. Making good money. With valuable contributions to make in the class.
You know enough to know that as soon as you stop learning, you might as well be dead.
So there’s who I’m writing to and writing for. You might be a hybrid of one, or a couple of them. But I believe I know you because I have been all of you at some point in my life.
Which leads me back to the point of this post.
Lots of you who read my posts are moms and all of us have (or had) a mom. And most of us have the experience of reminding or being reminded to, “Take your jacket,” “Eat your vegetables,” and “Finish your homework.”
And what’s underneath all those reminders is, “I love you. I’m for you and on your side. I believe in you and want you to be more than okay. I want you to be the best version of who you can be.”
And that’s exactly how I feel here on this blog.
My last post was written in a hurry. I simply didn’t take the time to make sure that while I was writing about the world of hardware, you could hear that I’m cheering you on in your journey in the world of understanding colour and design.
Boy, do I regret that.
As I said in one of the comments, I wanted to run and hide under a bed with some of the feedback I was getting, haha.
Some of you came to my defense because you know me. You’ve been reading this blog for a long time and you know that my mission in life is to save you from the bathroom or kitchen that the next homeowner simply can’t wait to rip out.
Or save you from wanting to do that the minute it’s installed. Thanks so much, I really appreciate you!
But for those of you who were (even mildly) insulted and felt condescended to, I am sorry. Truly. I’m even thankful you gave me feedback. Really.
Thank you for spending time and sharing your thoughts on this blog. Every day is a new opportunity to receive feedback about how we are in the world, and, like I said above, if I stop learning, I may as well be dead.
So I’ll keep learning and do better, AND I’ll still continue to be bossy yet charming 🙂