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Fashion Translated

Most people shop for ANYTHING house related the way I shop for fashion.

I was thinking about this the other day because I have been desperate to find a local stylist to help me with my clothes. Especially, when I have to come up with 12 different outfits to pack into a 3 week trip that includes three courses for 3 days each, PLUS outfits for High Point Market. I certainly can’t pack 12 pairs of shoes, haha.

Of course, I do this when I’m travelling (below) but I need a fresh eye to help me.

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I haven’t been able to find a stylist who is willing to come all the way to Chilliwack where I live. Either that, or I look at their Instagram account and their outfits are just too neutral. I need a stylist who understands colour.

Anyway, back to my point. Because I don’t have a stylist who has conducted a review of my wardrobe and created a list of clothes that I might need, I shop BLIND.

Because I don’t really know what is missing.

So I come home with random purchases that I have decided I LOVE in the store, or they were ON SALE, and then, sadly, many of these items of clothing become orphans. They are rarely, if ever worn.

And that is exactly how most people shop for tile, or countertops, or sofas or dining chairs.

Recently, I was in a furniture showroom sourcing fabrics for a client. As I walked around the showroom, I noticed a woman who appeared to be in the process of choosing a fabric for her sofa.

She had about 5 or 6 fabric samples and she had laid them out on the sofa style she was buying, while she proceeded to hold them up, individually, looking at them in different angles (as if this would help).

Do you know how many readers or clients I have spoken to who said “It looked grey in the showroom but when it arrived in my house, it went taupe (or green or blue) and totally wrong in THEIR interior with THEIR existing furniture”. And now you’ve got a custom item in your home that you cannot return.

Another couple I recently consulted with, simply drove to the furniture store, looked through the available fabric samples, and placed a custom order (no returns) for almost $10,000, on a full set of upholstered dining room chairs and counter stools for their kitchen.

When I asked to see a fabric sample of the chairs, they did not have one. It had not occurred to them to ask for one (I made the same mistake the first time I bought a sofa years ago).

When you shop like this, you are making the exact same mistake that I make with fashion.

Not only are you likely to end up with the wrong colour, you think that it actually helps if you LOVE it in the showroom.

I get emails all the time from readers who have half renovated a space. They’re done, but something bothers them, and they don’t know what it is.

For example, they have replaced their countertops with white marble but left their patterned, earthy floor tile installed.

So they email me and ask for my opinion.

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Every single time, they are quick to include “But I love my backsplash, or I fell in love with the countertop” and this statement especially breaks my heart, “Everyone who comes over loves it!” because validation from your friends, who don’t want you to feel bad, is not very accurate.

Bottom line, LOVE is always a part of these emails.

When clients work with me, and they make a countertop choice for example, the rest of the conversation is then about which colours or finishes ‘works best’ with the countertop (that they love). I am not constantly asking “Do you love this one?” or “How about that one?”

But I certainly asked those questions often when I was new. And the reason I did that is because I really didn’t know for certain, which one was right, or even if I did, I didn’t know how to explain why my instinct was correct.

I just hoped that they would choose because then I would be off the hook.

Now that I’ve conducted literally thousands of consultations, even if my client claims that they are in fact MADLY IN LOVE with that charcoal 12″ x 24″ tile, or that charcoal hardwood floor, I will try my very best to talk them out of it.

Because everyone is always in love with the current trends, but that will not leave you a classic and timeless interior.

When you consult with me, you are buying my classic and timeless aesthetic. And I’m super bossy (in a charming way) about it. Your aesthetic does not need to be the same as mine, but if you’re reading this then it probably is a little bit. Otherwise, it’s easy to click and find another designers blog who does have your aesthetic. And, there is nothing wrong with that!

Learning how to choose classic and timeless finishes and colours is the foundation of my colour training workshops.

Because you’ll learn how to choose and specify colour, and at the same time how to view design choices through the lens of classic and timeless. It’s much easier to work with a client or choose finishes for your house when you have a place to stand. Otherwise you really don’t know which one is right or why, so you end up shopping for your house the way most of us also shop for fashion.

We waste a lot of money without a plan and a vision in our heads for our wardrobe or our house.

Often students will approach me in my courses and tell me how their house was bothering them, and they hired me for an eDesign consultation and then after they followed my advice, they loved their house more.

So they register to attend my colour workshops because they want to learn more. They want to learn how to do it themselves.

Kind of like the old Proverb, give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

After all, how many $2000 colour mistakes do you already live with in your house? The course is a bargain when you think about all the colour choices you’ll start making, understanding WHY it’s the right choice, instead of guessing and crossing your fingers and hoping that it just ‘turns out’.

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Most of us can easily add up $2000 worth of fashion choices that were wrong as well. But at least if you buy a jumpsuit that isn’t as fabulous on you as it seemed to be in the fitting room or on the model online, it just sits in your closet until you give it away (hopefully to someone who appreciates it so you don’t feel like you’ve totally wasted your money) or ship it off to the thrift store.

When you make a bad colour decision on tiles or granite or sofas or chairs, you have to live with it in plain sight for sometimes a VERY LONG TIME.

So I’d just like to save you from that.

Truly.

It really upsets me when too much money is spent on something that is just plain wrong.

My philosophy when it comes to your home, is let’s try to have it all. As much as we can.

The list of updates and items that you need for your home is often so much longer than the budget will allow.

So let’s spread your money around so you can have many beautiful things instead of just one.

After all, new, very expensive dining room chairs will still not give you a look and a feel. You’ll still need lamps, artwork, a rug and some accessories before the room will fill you with happiness when you walk in the door.

So please, whatever you do, DO NOT spend all your money on just chairs.

Or just the sofa.

Or the biggest house on the block.

And most important of all, bring your samples home FIRST, before you make a decision.

You can’t shop for finishes and furniture the way you shop for fashion, snapping up whatever catches your eye.

I’ve learned that when shopping for clothes, it’s a good idea to take it home and try it on with a few things to make sure I can get at least a couple outfits out of any new piece.

I would never ever commit to a fabric or line my walls with a tile that I hadn’t taken home a sample of first to test and scrutinize with the rest of my house.

One unrelenting truth that experience has taught me, and that I like to share, is that the each design element is in the service of the bigger picture.

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I guess fashion is the same, the cutest skirt ever is not going anywhere without the rest of the outfit that works perfectly with it.

Over to you my lovelies, what’s the biggest colour mistake you’ve ever made? You’ll be in good company, because we’ve all made them!

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63 Comments

  • Bonnie says:

    I must have painted/papered my 70’s bathroom half a dozen times before I realized that I had to work with the pinky/beige fixtures and not ignore them.

  • Arlene says:

    My biggest mistake was picking g out wallpaper years ago that was so bland you could hardly see it. Picked it out of fear. Just couldn’t be to bright, dark or loud. The bottom line is I had no clue what I was doing and somewhere within was trying to tell me. The next time I decorated I got a designer in which was much nicer. Maria I like your style because it is timeless. I really do not care what it is fashion. I care about what is pleasing to my eye and definitely do not want to be changing even walk Color every 6-7 years. Great comparison regarding shopping. I could relate. Thus spring I have made a list of colours and clothing I want/need

  • Nancy says:

    Maria
    Great blog can totally relate.
    Bought expensive couch didnt take fabric home. Learned ,what you think will work and what will actually work.
    Not always the same.
    The one thing that you have taught that is so priceless …. is compare / compare then compare some more .
    Thanks

  • Elaine Haber says:

    How I wish we lived near each other, Maria. I adore bright colors and would love to help you organize your wardrobe! I’m also able to explain why a particular item of clothing is a good choice–not just to complement an outfit, but with a client’s coloring, facial features and figure.Feel free to run your questions by me any time!

  • Christine says:

    An insightful post as per usual. And very true in my case as well. Perhaps you’ve just opened up a new venture in educating the fashion stylist of the future about the importance of colour undertones!

    It also reminded me of an article talking about a new clothing business with a Bento Box type web service provided by a company called MM.Lafleur. Simple, colour co-ordinated clothing for the business women based on each woman as an individual.

  • Sonja says:

    Hi Maria,
    I’ve listened to style consultant Tracy Richardson, talk style/image on CFAX radio, many times. I believe she is located in Vancouver. Here is a link to her website:
    https://tracystyles.com/lets-talk

  • Lucy says:

    Hi Maria,. Oh yes I have made many mistakes choosing color for myself and clients! I wish I had known what I know now! I look back on pictures of my own house and even though I was very conservative I see busy counters with busy floor and oh those darn pink beiges! Thank God for your teaching and insight!

    You always look so classy in the way you dress so you definitely know how to put your outfits together! It is hard for anyone to pack for a long trip with few items. Have fun on your trip and carry a few accessories to change things up!

  • Anne Wilbur says:

    I like it that you are “super bossy” because I needed to be saved from myself! I have strong opinions about things, and it took me awhile to come to the conclusion that your color choices for my home were in fact the best ones. Thank you! I love my colors. Worst color mistake I made was painting my 2001 new build home in a pink beige based on a sample that was less than 1” square. I have spent years eradicating that mistake. Just two closets and a laundry room still have that puke color but will finally be painted this year.

  • Mid America Mom says:

    Years back I had to wear suits/ dresses to work and spent a good amount of money and effort getting a wardrobe together. I was told to have a “neutral” foundation color for clothes that would help bridge years and mixing of styles. Being in a 4 season environment white and beige were out so that left darker colors and they mentioned navy / black / and maybe dark brown. So my staple jacket/pant/skirt/shoe were that one color. When I would buy prints or color I would make sure it worked with that “neutral”. If I go outside that rule – then I am forced to buy an outfit which is fun yes but I find I dislike the cost. As for biggest fail in decor.. We had chocolate walls in the living room in our 3rd house and I wanted something lighter in the entry. I ended up with a pink beige that really was pink and repainted with maybe an off white and still was not happy. Looking back now I realize what I really wanted was a medium toned color. Funny- I have been following this blog for a few years and I am not sure what neutral I would pair with chocolate!

    • Maria Killam says:

      Creams and Cognac tones would be beautiful along with some leopard prints! Thanks for your comment Brenda! Maria

  • Jeannine says:

    I’m embarrassed to admit this but my worst mistake was just recently. I found a pair of chairs, vintage, English arms with beautiful turned legs and casters at auction a few months ago. They were upholstered in a red and creamy white toile. Not the print that works for my house but the red works well so I quickly came to the conclusion that since the legs were so beautiful and their were a pair, I should buy the chairs and live with the fabric for now. Big mistake! The print on the fabric actually reads as pink in my family room. My house has quite a bit of a masculine vibe going on, so big, pink, toile chairs look incredibly out of place. And they were expensive! My husband who stays out of all things related to decorating even knows it’s wrong. Doesn’t know why but he spent a weekend arranging and rearranging the family room thinking he could make it look better with some tweaking. I knew better because I knew what the problem was immediately. After looking at these chairs for the last couple of months I don’t even think new upholstery will fix the problem. I think the scale is wrong. I think every other piece of furniture would have to be changed. Ack!!! I’ll never make that mistake again. Currently whenever someone compliments the chairs such as “These chairs are so comfy!”, my reply is always, “Would you like to use them in your house?”. I always get the, “Oh I couldn’t! They’re your new chairs”. Yes, yes you can, please!! 😉 haha

    • Maria Killam says:

      I had a chair and ottoman recovered in black years ago. I HATED IT INSTANTLY and shipped it right back to the upholsters immediately. This happens to everyone that’s for sure! Thanks for your comment! Maria

  • June says:

    Maria,

    The cute little child on your Instagram (on the bottom left of this page) has the answer to your trip and packing dilemma: “I wore this outfit yesterday but I’m going different places today. So it’s OK.”

    ADORABLE!!!!!!

    • Maria Killam says:

      Oh my gosh, I need to put her/him on my post, it’s so relevant! Thanks for your comment 🙂 Maria

  • Sandra Berube says:

    Maria
    You are superb at putting into words – what everyone needs to know. This is your most relevant post ever!
    Everyone shops for clothes – not everyone knows how to shop for a home.

    This post says what your entire program is all about.

    Just like you found your excellent landscape designer… you will find your clothing stylist.
    Things just keep getter better …

  • Sue says:

    As far as fashion and traveling, have you ever heard of The Vivienne Files and the idea of a capsule wardrobe? You might want to check out her blog if not. She’s pretty great. You might relate to her approach.

  • Corinne Koftinoff says:

    This is so true! Add my name to the list of people who wish that they had found Maria BEFORE buying furniture, countertop, tile, flooring, etc.. I purchased all new furniture from a store which was closing their Langley branch. As my friend pointed out, “These prices are so good and you never would be able to buy this stuff if it wasn’t on sale”. I swore before entering this store that I would never have dark furniture again as it shows the dust so much. Well, my wood furniture is dark brown and the tile on the walls is dark brown to match. I purchased Maria’s “Save Me From Myself” online package and at least I have a direction in which to proceed. Slowly as I make changes I am starting to feel better about my new home.

  • Monica says:

    Have you considered Angie of “You Look Fab”? She is in Seattle so not exactly local, but I think you would enjoy the way she uses color and her over all approach to shopping and wardrobes.

    • Maria Killam says:

      Love Angie but she is in Seattle and can’t do a wardrobe review. So without that, you’re still shopping blind. Maria

      • Brenda says:

        I follow Angie and I am sure it is because you had mentioned her a few years back on your blog. She is awesome! Someday I am going to Seattle and I am going to hire her for a couple days. You have so many good things on your blog, Maria! Someday I am going to hire you too!

  • Betsy Suposs says:

    Great post Maria! BTW, you do a damn good job putting your outfits together, at least what I saw at the seminar. I love all the color and fun you bring in your wardrobe; it’s upbeat and appropriate so not so sure you need a stylist anyway……..just sayin!!

  • Red Ellie says:

    I found a great garage sale deal on two matching loveseats that opened into beds 30 years ago. So we drove 100 miles to a discount upholstery place to buy fabric. I found some beautiful navy in a small design that I draped over a chair in the store. Loved it. But I didn’t buy it. I choked and bought a wheat stubbed neutral that I felt would be “safer”. I had no option to bring home samples it was now or never. I covered both little sofas and they were fine. But I never Not for one minute loved them. They were too bland. The navy’s pattern was subdued enough to read as a neutrall and would have been perfect in my small home. We had very little $$ and I had to just live with blah for a while. The next time I bought a new sofa 18 yrs ago and needed to choose fabric I brought home 3-5 samples three different times over two weeks before I made my decision. The ones I “knew” would be great changed color in my dimly lit living room. The One I finally picked was exactly right.
    And by the way…when I returned the 9th sample to the store, the friendly sales guy was rude. He said What’s the deal with you? How many samples do you need anyway? I walked out and found another store.
    I still have that Flexsteel sofa. The mossy long-wearing fabric never did wear out or look dated. But for my new house I had the back rebuilt and reupholstered in a mink brown velvet. I also had some ivory linen slip covers made too.

  • Ronda says:

    Aloha Maria,
    I had my colors done years ago via color draping. It has helped me a lot in picking colors & items of clothing that look good on me. Another reader’s suggestion of https://tracystyles.com/ looks like a great place to start. How many suitcases do you want to lug around? Are you trying to fit everything into a carry-on? Can you have some items shipped to where you’ll be staying to swap out (ship them back home) some pieces and add new ones to the mix? The more you can mix & match & accessorize the more mileage you’ll get out of the pieces you take with you. You can do this!

    • Maria Killam says:

      Definitely cannot fit clothes for 3 courses in a carry on! Yes I can do it myself but I’d rather not. I need a fresh eye! I’m a Spring, orange and yellow are my colours! Thanks for your comment! Maria

      • Ann says:

        Maria, Do you live close to a Nordstrom. A stylist will help you with everything, clothes, accessories, shoes, jewelry, handbags, makeup. Anything you need. Their service is free ??

        • Maria Killam says:

          Our Nordstrom doesn’t have that, also they aren’t coming to my house and what I really needed was a wardrobe review. Thanks for your comment! Maria

  • Well, I certainly need a fashion stylist too, so perhaps we can find someone to come out to Chilliwack for 2 appointments!
    I need help. I’m an awesome interior designer, but horrible dresser!

    Great post and I adore the little teddy bear/boy photo!!

  • Red Ellie says:

    And Maria…one rule that works when buying clothes? Buy an outfit not a single piece. If you need a new skirt find a great top and an accessory to go with. That way you have one outstanding outfit. Chances are, the top can be paired with jeans you own, the skirt will look good with your old sweater set. The jewelry or scarf or bag or shoes go with both pieces you bought so when you break it all up the accessory will be a keeper too.

  • Kristin Dimmich says:

    Maria, I just wanted to thank you today for all the wonderful information that you share! It is great for the novice homeowner as well as we professionals. I hope to join you one day at the seminars, as we always need to continually learn new things!

  • Marths says:

    We repainted our wooden unattached garage to match our new beige vinyl siding. After 2 coats when I saw the garage in the late afternoon sun it looked pink. I didn’t understand anything about undertones at that point. I was convinced we needed to repaint because it was just wrong. My husband was not convinced. He just didn’t see it. It wasn’t until the neighbor behind us came over and asked the hubby why we had painted the garage pink that he changed his mind. By some miracle we stumbled on the right color of beige the second time.

  • Leslye says:

    Like your fashion quandary, I know that all the colors I look my best in also need white on me. Medium bright colors mixed with black overwhelm my coloring. Therefore, the best choice for me is white pants (which are difficult to wear) or skirts (which are like pie in the sky to find).
    There is a lesson here…white paint, tile or fixtures will always work with color!

  • Holly says:

    Yep, been there done that. I finally was able to afford my first new sofa (just a few years ago!) that I purchased at an outlet. I loved the color in the showroom but it looks so much darker in my house! I forgot to notice all the bright fluorescent lights shining down on it. Plus the darker sofa shows ALL the cat hair from my fluffy cat. I can’t stand this sofa now. lol But its in good condition (aside from fluffy cat scratches on the back) so I will wait it out and I some blanket throws make it half way decent.

  • I just got home from Floor and Decor– a tile big-box store. The man in front of me at the checkout had selected some gray tiles for his bathroom & asked the very young cashier who was ringing up the order– does the color of this bullnose trim go with my gray tiles? She gave it a quick look– “Oh yes,” she said, “they’re both gray!” Of course one was a violet gray and one was a blue gray but the man happily walked out of the store with that mess. That’s kind of like getting desperate and asking the postman who happens to be on your porch, “which swatch do YOU like best for the paint color in my hallway?” Since taking Maria’s course many years ago, I don’t have to ask for passer-by’s opinions; because selecting color really is a science — there is a right answer and a wrong answer!

  • Beverly says:

    I hoping not to make a color mistake. I found your blog before I started painting my house and I’m so grateful! My next project is painting my kitchen cabinets. I was planning to paint them White, but I absolutely love color and am now them between painting them White or a light blue. Since my kitchen is light yellow with wainscoting I don’t believe painting my cabinets blue will be too much, but I would love your opinion. I’m planning to live in this house for a long time, but I would hate to have to repaint the cabinets because I got tired of the color. For kitchen cabinets is color timeless like white is?

    • Maria Killam says:

      Yes it is! If you love blue, you’ll probably love blue for a long time! Love this idea! Maria

      • Beverly says:

        Thanks for the reply! Except for my bathroom, no room in my house is painted a neutral. So painting my cabinets white just seemed boring. You have put my mind ease!
        I love learning about color. I follow your blog and one by Imogen Lamport who talks about color in fashion. She gives such practical advice. I’ll send you link to her blog just in case it helps your fashion dilemma.

  • Debra says:

    Ahhh.. I think you already know.
    I painted the exterior brick ( and rock) on my home in Michigan.
    The main color of the home looked stark white outside, after painting ( even though it was a definite cream!)
    The rock turned sparkling pink, so did the garage door. (was supposed to be a light tan)
    Ended up repainting THREE times…settling on a color that looked okay.
    Some photographs made it look okay, others showed my mistake very clearly.
    We sold the house fast, and so I got away with it but I knew it wasn’t right.
    Going to your class in a couple of weeks, so I don’t ever repeat that mistake again.

    See you soon!

  • Truly says:

    One big mistake I’ve made is getting a printed carpet on my stairs instead of doing something more timeless or what I now wish I had, which is wood!!

  • Lynn says:

    I love your outfits (look forward to seeing what you are wearing in your pictures and where that pop of yellow will be)
    I don’t think you need a stylist, just back to mix and match which you can still do with colors. Please do not turn into a black and khaki lady! I learned the hard way with clothing colors, too. If I am trying to coordinate something I already have, I bring it with me. Saves time and money.
    Love your honesty and persoective. I look forward to each blog. I always learn something new or sometimes reinforce my own beliefs that may not be “The current Trend”.

    • Maria Killam says:

      Thanks Lynn, I need a fresh eye who understands colour for sure! If I were to show up in my courses wearing no colour, people would be VERY DISAPPOINTED. Well I imagine I would be, when I arrived at colour courses back in the day, I expected COLOUR 🙂 Thanks for your comment Maria

  • Mary-Illinois says:

    The closest store to where I live that lets you do custom upholstery is Ethan Allen. I went there to buy an accent chair for my bedroom. I brought with me a fabric swatch of my drapes. The sales woman pulled numerous fabrics that she thought would work for my chair and with my drapes. I asked if I could check out the samples so I could see them in my bedroom. It seems they have a policy that doesn’t allow you to bring home their fabric samples. You need to make an appointment for the salesperson to bring them to your home. And you aren’t allowed to keep them for a few days to allow you to view them during the day & at night under your own lighting.
    I had the saleswoman come out 3 different times. I finally picked my fabric for my chair from the small swatches. When that chair was delivered 8 weeks later I wanted to cry. It was terrible!
    I had to decide whether to redecorate my bedroom to go with the new chair or get the chair reupholstered. I got the chair reupholstered. With fabric I found online & was able to get samples.

    • Mid America Mom says:

      So sorry to hear that Mary 🙁 . All that hard work and headache. I commend you for working through it! Sounds like big samples when checking color in general is necessary. We are renovating our kitchen (moved in October farther north in the tri-cities of fox valley..) . As we are demo’ing and pulling up 3 layers of flooring my husband asked what are we doing with the floor? I was astonished in that I completely forgot about the floor probably because we will go with a vinyl in a medium brown or light colored wood look as Maria likes to suggest those colors for hardwoods. But I also never budgeted for it. YIKES. Trip to HD we went! Selection is disappointing beyond belief in the store. You must like rustic knotty wood or scraped look or go with a gray wash or gray stain look that was like 90% of what we could see. To top it off all we could get is a 4*4 sample , unless I bought a whole box, and this little thing looks so different from display even. Need to hit a few more stores.

  • Sally F. says:

    Maria, have you tried http://www.imagestrategist.com who works out of Vancouver? I don’t know if Patti would travel to Chilliwack but it’s worth checking out.

  • Christine Mueller says:

    My BIG expensive mistake was putting Uba Tuba granite on my kitchen cabinets that are 1950’s boxes which were resurfaced with cherry veneer and new drawer fronts and doors. Then topping it off with glass mosaic backsplash. This was before I found this blog and read never to put stone (expensive) countertop material on top of old cabinets. They are still 1950’s cabinets under that expensive countertop. I so wish I would have picked as nice formica and a classic subway backsplash. It would have cost much less and I wouldn’t be living with what turns out to be glass countertops that show EVERYTHING. It is a constant battle with a spray bottle of glass cleaner to keep them looking decent. We will be building our forever home and I want to love it for the rest of my life so I will see you in Chicago in May!

  • Andrea Brankin says:

    Such a short post to have so much useful advice:
    “everyone is always in love with the current trends, but that will not leave you a classic and timeless interior”….bam
    “We waste a lot of money without a plan and a vision in our heads”…spot on
    “let’s try to have it all. As much as we can.”…but of course!
    “each design element is in the service of the bigger picture.”…preach it!
    Thanks for being “bossy”, Maria!

  • Heidi Paris says:

    Hi, Maria!
    Dressing well takes a lot of time and effort. Being limited by travel makes it especially frustrating. I recommend mailing your complete outfits to the locations where you will be wearing them. That way you don’t have to compromise on the right shoes, bag etc. because you are limited on space in your luggage. It might seem expensive, but so are checked luggage fees. It’s a pain to mail it home, but such a relief not to have to carry it around after you don’t need it anymore. I’m sure your volunteers would take your already worn outfits to FedEx at the end of your seminar to mail home for you as you travel on to the next location, where your clothes are waiting for you at the home of one of the new volunteers. She can drop them off at your hotel before you check in.
    I also recommend two grat books which helped me dress better.
    Staging Your Comeback by Christopher Hopkins, The Makeover Guy
    How Not To Look Old by Charla Krupp
    Let me know what you think!

  • Lisa H Mende says:

    Great blog post! It’s true! Without proper planning and a savvy plan fashion and interiors fail! We need a plan with fashion the same as we need a plan with interiors. Before shopping for clothing shop your own closet, see what is there that you still love and what you need to throw out, think about the looks you want to wear each season then make take a strict accounting of your wardrobe to see what is missing, then only shop for those pieces. Everyone needs a good crisp white blouse, black pants, jeans in both denim and black, a good blazer, coat, raincoat, etc. you know the basics. Buy the best you can afford so you appreciate the pieces and love them and feel good in them when you wear them. If you see a piece you weren’t shopping for that you absolutely love, buy it and see if you if you still love it the next day and if it still gives you the feels. if not return it. In interiors, you have the right attitude, as with your wardrobe. Classic and timeless add the trend in the accessories and shoes. Buy good pieces for the base in home and decor and always choose to add the trend in small doses. You are amazing at what you do and how you write about it! And like your interiors, you always look smashing wherever you go!

  • Dianne says:

    Maria Happy Easter to you & Terreria! Please give her a hug for me! I think if you both often. I follow your blog and Instagram and really enjoy your posts. In case you don’t remember me, we met at a Brene Brown course led by Anita.

    Anyway, I’m writing because I personally know a wardrobe consultant who I’m pretty sure isn’t afraid of colour. She lives in North Vancouver. She wrote a book “First Impressions” and has dressed many high profile men and women (former premier included)
    Her contact email is: [email protected]
    her website: http://www.imagestrategist.com/
    Good Luck! And keep posting your inspiring thoughts on colour, life and creating home.
    Dianne Hawkins
    (from the Comox Valley)

  • Susan says:

    Hi Maria, House Beautiful recommended this app recently and maybe it could help you? Looks like a lot of start up work but has good reviews 🙂 https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/stylebook/id335709058?mt=8
    When in your situation, I try to limit color to one neutral (simplifies shoes) and then go wild with accessories. Also, typically pack clothing I can roll without concerns re: wrinkles, then hand wash/line dry to freshen. (Dream = attending one of your workshops!)

  • Carol says:

    Have you thought about “capsule dressing”? Where you start with a print and pick your colors off
    of it and then make sure that your tops and bottom colors all go together? You could do it
    really easy with your knowledge of colors. There are a lot of articles online about it. That way you can take less clothes and have more outfits. I started it when I went to Italy for two weeks years ago and have been packing that way ever since. So easy once you get the hang of it. If you think about it coordinating your wardrobe isnt a whole lot different than coordinating colors in a room. Same concept…..You can do it!!!!

  • mrsben says:

    Perhaps from being a hobby sewer; IMHO I believe that fashion and interior design are much the same in so many aspects many of which you have preached yourself Maria that should be taken into consideration not only to dress yourself but your home as well. i.e.: Colour, pattern, texture, quality, scale, accessorizing and the list goes on. That said and briefly; when selecting either I feel if one has a few key pieces of ‘classics’ you cannot go wrong as they will serve you for many years. For example; do I dare admit some of the blouses that I wear and get the most compliments on (namely because of their quality fabric, workmanship and classic styling) are at least fifteen years old yet they can be readily mixed with current pieces. Whereas; most of my furnishings are traditional (or antique) and are upgraded periodically with new upholstery. Also shall add; you are spot on Marie about samples as lighting definitely affects colours and the lighting in the majority of stores is just downright horrid to begin with! (The same applies in fabric stores where I’ve seen myself drag a whole bolt of fabric to a storefront window to view it in a natural light, before I even have a sample cut … lol!)
    Now to answer your question; ‘what’s the biggest colour mistake you’ve ever made?’ In fashion; mistaking a deep navy blue for black (an all-weather coat) and in interior decorating many years ago, choosing a paint that was navy blue but had so much of a purple undertone that I drove them crazy at Benjamin Moore until it was tweaked to my liking since I had purchased two gallons of it. Apologize for being so long winded.
    -Brenda-
    P.S.: HAPPY SPRING & EASTER TO YOU AND YOURS!

  • Becky says:

    Maria, have you ever looked at Dressing Your Truth? It is a system based on dressing so people can tell who you really are, before you even open your mouth. It covers everything from color (A LOT of color!!! No “blandness” here- unless it suits you), texture, fabrication, etc. I personally consider that undertones are taken into consideration, with the system being based on hues, shades, tints, and tones. It is self led, but you get the tools to do it right. My mom has gone from a fashion drop-out, to FABULOUS, confident, amazing style! I mean, this is a mere half step below miracle-hood. You can see the system before you pay a single penny now too. I can’t attach a link, so here’s what I’ve got: https://my.liveyourtruth.com/dyt/home/.
    Signed,
    A Happy DYTer

  • Kay Perret says:

    Have you gone Janice Riggs? She writes The Vivienne Files blog. I’ve learned SO much from her about putting together a cohesive clothing plan. Naturals, color, it’s all there. ?

  • Carol says:

    Dear Maria, What you need is a stylist who understands the undertones in skin tones. Exactly like you understand the undertones in paint, fabrics, and hard surfaces. Usually they are trained in the “Color Me Beautiful School”. From what I can see in your photo with yellow and clear blue clothing, it appears that you are a “Spring”. This is a great hair and skin color combo because it will keep you looking youthful well into your 70’s if you wear the right colors.

    However, the problem with being a “Spring” is that the Spring pallet is rarely considered fashionable. So people with “Spring” coloration usually have to have their wardrobes custom made.

    IF you might think you MIGHT be a “Spring”, try these examples: No black. It makes you look dead. Navy should have a bit of green in it. That is called Marine Blue. No pure, stark white. Use any shade of Ivory (not creme or beige) instead. Even the slightest hint of ivory will make a huge difference. For Red choose a tomato not cherry or Christmas red. No Orange (it is too strong) but Coral can look good. For blue, avoid powder blue, choose a clear blue with a hint of green like Cadet Blue. Indigo Blue is also great. No purple or eggplant but “Springs” look good in violet. Browns can be tricky especially as we get older. I never go any darker than a golden camel. Gold jewelry instead of silver. Pearls look best when combined with gold, and due to their luster, tend to pick up the undertones of your skin.

    I realize that you may NOT be a “Spring”, but if you are, that is probably why you have a difficult time find clothes off the rack.

    Best wishes, Carol

    • Maria Killam says:

      I totally am a Spring and my colours are RARELY available! Thanks so much for your tips!! xo Maria

  • MissDeltaGirl says:

    My biggest color mistake was trying to decorate our newly purchased home from two states away and have it painted before we officially moved. I picked out the paint colors using small Benjamin Moore paint samples in the dimly lit house while there for spring break, then when we went to the paint store to purchase them my husband made me change paint brands from BM to the store brand because they were having a big sale and they only guaranteed their paint if you used their colors (not matching the colors to another brand). So in my ignorance I sat there in the paint store in a rush as they were trying to close the store and tried to match the already poorly chosen BM paint chips to as close a color as I could find in the store brand while my husband kept telling me to hurry up. He proudly bought all the paint for the whole interior of the 3,000 square foot house — including the trim — “on sale” that night.
    A month later when I arrived with the movers and all of our belongings, I walked into a house that the entire open concept main area was the color of butternut squash. The kitchen cabinets were gold beige, and the walls in the kitchen were a weird cream beige. The hallway leading upstairs looked like someone had peed everywhere — it was literally the color of bright urine. Now, Yellow is my favorite color. But I was about to cry it was so bright and it felt so wrong. It didn’t help that I had an entire brick wall in the main area that weeks later after secretly hiring Maria in desperation (hubby would not hear of hiring a designer) I would learn had a pink undertone that just made all the yellowish paint look even more putrid. I was expending so much mental and emotional energy every time I had to walk through my main area. It was horrible. My husband was scheduled to go out of town for three days on a business trip. I booked a painter to come during that time and had him repaint everything the Benjamin Moore “Muslin” Maria had chosen to tie in with the pink-undertoned brick. Before my husband left town, I told him that everything would “lighten up” when the “final” coat of paint went on. (He didn’t have to know it was the final “two coats” of paint of a whole other color.) It cost me several thousand dollars to correct that mistake. When it came time later that year to paint the exterior and deal with that same tricky brick, I secretly hired Maria with my own money and then ran the color “ideas” by my hubby as if they were my ideas. In addition to the lovely neutrals Maria suggested to go with the brick, she also suggested two color choices for my front door: a “safe” color Peaches and Cream and a “risky” deep eggplant color called Kalamata. I painted samples and “showed” them to my husband as if they were my ideas and let him choose, knowing they were both already Maria-approved. To my surprise, he chose the “risky” purple color, but then wanted to paint the entire exterior in that color!!!!!! hahahaha! I talked him down and the house looks great. Thanks Maria!

  • SusanM says:

    Good post — there definitely are parallels between choosing home decor and personal apparel. As for a stylist for you, too bad you don’t have time to go to Seattle again and see Angie. I can’t think of a big home decor color mistake I’ve made, but I may have been oblivious to it 30 years ago. And more recently, I’ve either had help or been more thoughtful and conscious in my decisions.

    • Maria Killam says:

      Yes but without the ability to do a wardrobe review, we’d still be shopping blind. That’s what doesn’t work about a long distance fashion stylist. Thanks for your comment! Maria

  • Mandie Rodriguez says:

    You should check out Adore Your Wardrobe. It’s a class on how to buy clothes for you and it’s all based on math and science! (BTW I do not work for them it just really helped me stop buying clothes I didn’t need!)

  • Julianna says:

    Very wise words! I am absorbing them all because I suspect I might be one of the clients you’ve referenced in this post. You know the one with the creamy white marble counters and the old Tuscan inspired floor tile. I’ve bought both your books online and I’m working on a fix. But I won’t do a thing before I ask you!

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